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Jun 2, 2010

WHY YOU HAVEN'T FOUND THE ONE

Earlier I was texting with my friend, and she asked me why she still hasn't found the one. And it made me think... she is a very pretty girl. She's smart, funny and yeah, she's got like more than half of what I think what men are looking for in a woman. But she's still single. I told her, she's still young, there's still alot of time to find the right man. But the question still lingered in my tired and sleepless mind.Why are some people having a hard time finding the one?

1. YOU'VE GOT HIGH STANDARDS
Maybe you're looking for someone who's a rich, famous, good looking and smart man or a beautiful, athletic, caring and sexy woman. Reality check, it's very rare that anyone's got everything that you're looking for in a partner. They'll always have flaws. And if there is anyone at all like that who exists. Chances are they may not be looking for someone like you. Don't set your standards too high, because in one way or another, the person you're looking for may not exist, and you'll end up with nothing. Try a girl who accepts you for who you are, or a guy who makes you laugh. There's nothing wrong with having an ideal partner. Just make sure that they're real.

2. YOU'RE LOOKING AT THE WRONG PLACES
I highly doubt you'll find the love of your life in the chatroom. If you're a girl looking for a man who'd like to just stay with you at home and endure cheesy movie marathons, you won't find him in a club. If you're a guy looking for a girl who'd rock your world in the bedroom, the church is not the right place to scan for those kinds of women. Maybe I'm wrong, who knows, but the point is, if you're looking for a partner who has the same interests as yours, try to look for them where they could be found. Befriend a fellow blogger. Introduce yourself to people who works out with you. If you find someone interesting in a forum where you share the same hobbies (ie pinoyexchange), send him/her a personal message.

3. YOU'RE JUST WAITING
For guys, and I think I've said this a thousand times before already, YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO BE THE ONE LOOKING! People normally say they'll just wait for love. If someone's meant for you, destiny'll find a way for you two to meet. Yeah, that's very much possible... in the movies!!! Think about this, what if you're waiting for the right one to come... and that person's also waiting for you, are you willing to wait for something that's unlikely to come. Sometimes you have to do something else, if waiting is not working. That's how spinsters became what they are.

4. YOU'VE BEEN STUPID
Maybe you've found the right one, you just let him/her go. We've all made mistakes in our lives, and sometimes the consequence of those mistakes is our special someone. There's nothing wrong with that. But don't let that stop you from looking for the right one. I'm a firm believer that if the two of you are really meant to be, no storm or calamity will prevent you two from being together. Let that mistake be a lesson. Charge it to experience so that when the time comes that you two find each other again, you won't make the same mistake. Unless you're really stupid.

5. YOU DON'T LOVE YOURSELF.
I know most of what I'm saying is cliche. But the thing about cliche is, it's being said again and again because it is true. You'll never be happy with anyone else, if first and foremost you don't love yourself. For one, you will never believe that the person you're with loves you for what you are, because you yourself can't accept that you have faults. If you still have that, you'll never be contented. You'll always look for something more. In short, you're not yet ready that's why you still haven't found her or him.

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Dahil wala pa rin laman ang utak ko kundi siya. Yak, ang keso. Magrerepost na lang ako. Pasensya na.

Maligayang Hunyo sa inyong lahat. Umuulan kanina. Sa unang pagkakataon, ako ay masaya na umulan.

31 comments:

skron80 said...

Here are my reasons that I haven't found the "one".

1. I love myself too much that I don't have space for another.

2. I'm not looking.

3. Yes, I have high standards. I want a girl who's pretty, at least 5'4, with 36C-24-34 stats; a girl who won't throw my comics and who's willing to become my personal healbot in MMORPGs. It's all that or nothing.

rudeboy said...

I don't believe in "The One." It is, to me, a foolish romantic notion bound to breed nothing but disenchantment and desperation.

There are many "right" people at particular points in our lives.

The catch, I guess, is recognizing when they're standing right in front of us while we're busy looking for "the One."

Maldito said...

ang tanong, bakit single ka rin kooya gillboard?ahahhaa..

I think there is a negative effect on number 2...having a relationship with a fellow blogger will limit you when it comes to writing. kagaya rin yan kung may nakakakilala na sayu sa personal..

but you've got a lot of good points..which made me think maybe i really have to come out, lower my standard and start accepting the fact that dapat parating may boom boom pow.

bow. hahaha

LHEY said...

I stopped believing in finding "THE ONE" a long time ago...

Until GOD sent the "RIGHT ONE" my way...

But things didn't just happen, Life is all bout choices...

it's how we make things happen!

LHEY
http://www.mommylhey.blogspot.com

Photo Cache said...

agree ako sa mga points mo. i find that the worksite is the place where most love stories begin.

and girls and boys, the love stories that we see in the movies, only exist in the movies - never in real life.

The Gasoline Dude said...

Haha I cannot believe at first that you're the one who wrote this. Hahaha iba talaga 'pag in-love.

jayvie said...

asus inlab talaga ang lolo mo! napapasaya sa ulan! lol

naku guilty ako sa #1, #2, #3, #4 at #5. naku lahat pala. hahaha.

basta masaya talaga kami para sayo, manong gilbert (kahit ayaw mong tawagin kitang ganyan haha) :D

Jepoy said...

Okay iba talaga ang tabas ng dila ng mga inlove...Nagiging Doctor love to the highest level

Favorite ko ang Number 5

Mahirap mahalin ang Sarili kapag ang sarili gustong mahalin 'yung taong ayaw naman sayo pero 'yung taong gusto kang mahalin hindi mabigyan ng chance kasi sarado ang puso't isipan. Inshort aware sa nangyayari pero walang magawa kundi i hate ang sarili.

Ang gulo ko basta gusto ko ang number five.

Apir!

Word Verif: PowtahZyha

FerBert said...

Teka magdidis-agree ako ng konti sa number 2. konti lang. as in super slight.

may mga babaeng palasimba na magaling sa kama. (NINJA)

bulakbolero.sg said...

parang ang hirap magcomment sa topic na to. lol.

pero i've been stupid. nyakaka.

caloy said...

tsk tsk. emo much? haaaay..

the scud said...

keso ka nga gillboard. ayos yan. masaya maging keso. haha.

NoBenta said...

yup, agree ako sa lahat ng points mo at guilty ako sa lahat noong binata pa ako.

fave ko ang number 1. dati, napakataas ng standards ko. nagising ako isang umaga at na-realize ko na pangit pala ako kaya huwag mag-inarte na parang kaguwapuhan. pero ok lang, may utak nama. bwahaha

rakenrol lover boy \m/

olyabut said...

wow, haha. this is one's good, tinamaan ako dito at napagisip ng onti. =p

Stone-Cold Angel said...

Pag in love ka nga naman... lumalabas ang pagiging adviser...

I agree with your points. Nice entry! =)

silentassasin said...

Agree ako sa comment ni Ferbert..LOL

prinsesamusang said...

pwede naman din na nasa muka na natin eh hindi natin pinapansin dahil pinipilit natin na maging the one yung hindi naman talaga the one. hindi mo ba lab ang ulan? ako, lab na lab ko!

mikko said...

its because a lot of people still feels like they haven't found mr/ms right, when mr/ms good enough is right under their noses..

gillboard said...

mikko: ganun ata talaga pag infatuated.

prinsesamusang: ngayon lab ko na ang ulan... kasi di na ako mag-isa... insert napakalaking ngiti.

moi: nakalimutan ko, yung ibang tao nasa loob ang kulo.

gillboard said...

stonecold: sinulat ko to noong isang taon pa. hindi ako inlab noon... siguro naging eksperto lang ako sa pagiging single noon.

olyabut: salamat. yan naman ang nais ko... mapag-isip ang mga mambabasa ko.

nobenta: yup, pahamak yang mga standards na yan... di tayo natututo makita yung totoong nagmamahal sa atin.

gillboard said...

scud: di naman keso... reflective... yun ang ginagawa ko nitong mga nakalipas na mga linggo.

caloy: di ako emo... tamang masaya lang.

nobenta: nakakarelate ba sa ilang punto at nakaaalala ng mapait na nakaraan?! hahaha... biro lang

gillboard said...

efbee: pasensya naman, di ko siya pinroofread bago ko i repost... tama madami ngang catholic schoolgirls na wild!!! hahaha

jepoy: di baleng magulo, ang importante ay nakuha mo ang nais kong sabihin... hehehe

jayvie: sabi ni gincie, medyo emo ka daw!! kwento naman dyan.. hehehe

gillboard said...

gasdude: inperness, gasul i wrote this when i was still single. so matagal na akong ganito... hahaha

photocache: yup. sisihin ang mga pelikula kung bakit maraming nasasawi sa pag-ibig... lalo na pag di natutupad ang kanilang mala romeo and juliet na pinapangarap na pag-ibig.

lhey: welcome sa aking mumunting tahanan... at salamat sa pagbisita!!! balik ka..

gillboard said...

maldito: ayun talaga ang mahalaga... kahit na loveless ka, hindi nawawalan ng boom boom pow!!! hahaha

rudeboy: very good points. pano mo narealize yan? hehehe

skron: when you find that girl, wag mo na pakawalan... mukhang ang hirap kasi niyang hanapin... hehehe

Nimmy said...

#2 is so true.

G4M (now planetromeo) didn't work for me. Kaya sa friendster naglandi at nahanap ang partner ko (we just celebrated our 4th anniv).

Mac Callister said...

ibaba lang ang standards at maghanap sa tamang lugar!yun lang ang payo ko haha

macz said...

haaayy..








... (yun lang ang nasabe? haha)




tama ung #2, galeng nung point..



ako? hindi pa nman ako desperate magkaroon ng lablayp..konti na lang... :DD

ENS said...

siguro dahil sa mainit talaga diyan...
ako kasi... may seasonal depression... pag tag ulan...

comment sa post:
huwag maghanap at baka mahanap na si the one... o si one before the real one...

Raft3r said...

napakamot ako
sabi na nga ba nabasa ko na ito dati dito, eh

maulan na nga!
yehey!

kikilabotz said...

hehe. sang aon ako sa number five..sarili muna..paano ka mamahalin ng iba kung shindi ka kayang mahalin ng sarili mo. hehe

number two agree rin pero hnd sa lahat ng panahon. nive posts parekoy

ahmer said...

The last sentence rocks!