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Mar 9, 2009

DEAR DATE

How are you? I haven't heard from you since Feb. 18. You may be busy with your work, or with your life, that's why I'm hesitating to give you another ring. I just want to let you know I realized what I said to you that other night. I've been naive... and quite frankly... I've been stupid. But I guess you already know that.

I just want to let you know that lately, I've been thinking of you. I think I miss you. For the last few months that we've known each other you've been a really good friend. My constant afternoon phonepal. And for 3 months a very diligent textmate.

The purpose of this letter, really is to say I'm sorry. I may have said things that I shouldn' t have. I apologize if I have mislead you into thinking that there's something. There MAY BE something. I mean I wouldn't ask you out if there's nothing, right? It's just I think it's not yet the right time. Please don't mistake that for me not liking you, because it's just not true. I enjoy every minute that I am with you. All the times I hear your smile on the phone. All the silent moments in the restaurant. I also like the fact that you let me enjoy my sleep while you watched Benjamin Buttons. Even the time that you dragged me with your friends to visit a bar that straight men dare not enter. Believe it or not, those awkward moments on our dates have been fun for me. I enjoy - no - I LOVE your company.

I'm not perfect, and I may not be the right guy for you. You certainly deserve someone better. But for a few months, you stuck with me. I guess all I'm asking is to at least spare the friendship. Let's start there. It may work out, and things could go forward. Or it may not. Just don't let this end. Not this way. I have a list of people that I've met throughout this lifetime that I can do without, and your name is not there. Yours is something that I hold dear.

I hope you change your mind about us. But if it doesn't...

Thank you... for letting me get to know you.

Gillboard

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This letter I wrote with the sole intention of winning back date (or ex-date) after I totally screwed up our friendship. I have not sent it yet. For now it'll just sit on my drafts inbox. Wish me luck.

Anything you think I should add to this?!

BTW, this will be the last time I'll be posting about Date. But you will know if there is a need to move on.

32 comments:

The Gasoline Dude said...

Mas mabuti na 'yung ginawa mo. Meron kasi akong barkada dati na pinaasa niya talaga 'yung babae. After the holding of hands and all the smooching eh biglang nag-disappearing act 'tong barkada ko. Ang kuwento niya, 'di pa daw siya nakaka-getover sa ex niya. Kawawa tuloy 'yung babae.

Ron Centeno said...

Wow pare! After this letter I don't know if she won't fall in love with you or give you another chance.

Very well put together! Very well said!

Good Luck!

Mugen said...

Kung ako ang chick na date mo, kikiligin ako sa iyong letter.

Goodluck parekoy.

MarcoPaolo said...

I will just hope na mabasa niya ito... or send mo na lang to sa kanya para she knows about your feelings... di ba dre? :)

gillboard said...

gas dude: wala naman akong ex na pinagbibiterran pa... tsaka di ako katulad ng kaibigan mo... di ako rumerebound...

ron: thanks... i hope positive maging reaction kapag nasend ko na ito... pero sa ngayon... draft siya muna...

gillboard said...

joms: salamat.. sana ganun nga yung reaksyon kung maipadala ko man ito... hehehe

marco: takot kasi ako na malaman yung reaksyon niya dito... regardless good or bad...

wanderingcommuter said...

kapag binigay mo ito at wala pa rin nagbago, drop her... yeah, easily said than done. but you deserve better!

jEn said...

better send this to her..para at least ma realize nya that your friendship with her means so much to you...:)..

DRAKE said...

Hey hey hey, daan uli ako. I've been there as well. Pero payo lang bro. Siguro hindi na mahalaga yung mga bagay na ginawa nyo together, kasi mas masasaktan lang sya. Tell her that you are sorry and you cannot reciprocate the feelings sa knya. At kaibigan mo pa rin sya kahit ano pa ang mangyari.
The more kasi na pinapakita o pinaparamdaman mong guilty ka sa ginawa mo, the more na napaparamdam mo sa kanya yung mga sweet things na ginawa nyo together, mas lalo lang syang masasaktan. Mas lalo nyang mararamdaman ang pagkaawa o pagkainis sa iyo at sa sitwasyon. Give her space, kahit ipagpilitan mo sa kanya na manatili yung friendship kung masasaktan at lagi syang masasaktan, eh palayain mo na rin sya. Be sensitive to her feelings din naman, although alam kong you wanted to save the friendship pero di nakakatulong sa kanya eh.
Basta ganito magsorry ka sa nangyari na parang nasira yung date pero wag kang magsorry sa mga sinabi mo (tulak ng dibdib kabig ng bibig) dahil yun talaga ang nararamdaman mo at humingi ng tawad tungkol sa feelings mo.
Tandaan mo the more na pinapakita mong guilty ka mas lalo mong syang nasasaktan at parang nagiging cheap ( sa pakiramdam nya). Basta assure mo lang sya na lagi kang nandyan sa kanya at kung kailangan nya ng kaibigan.
Di ko alam kung tama ang nasabi ko, pero kung tingin mo mali yung sa akin, eh iignore mo na lang. Sana nakatulong

DRAKE said...

ISA NA LANG: Heto inalis ko yung mga bagay na hindi makakatulong. Dagdagan mo na lang base dun sa sinabi ko kanina:
_________________________________

How are you? I haven't heard from you since Feb. 18. You may be busy with your work, or with your life, that's why I'm hesitating to give you another ring. I just want to let you know I realized what I said to you that other night.

The purpose of this letter, really is to say I'm sorry. I may have said things that I shouldn' t have. I apologize if I have mislead you into thinking that there's something.

I'm not perfect, and I may not be the right guy for you. You certainly deserve someone better. But for a few months, you stuck with me. I guess all I'm asking is to at least spare the friendship. Let's start there. It may work out, and things could go forward. Or it may not. Just don't let this end. Not this way. I have a list of people that I've met throughout this lifetime that I can do without, and your name is not there. Yours is something that I hold dear.

I hope you change your mind about us. But if it doesn't...

Thank you... for letting me get to know you.
_______________________________

Hindi ko alam kung makakatulong ako, pero gusto lang talaga kitang tulungan.

ingat

Dylan Dimaubusan said...

Wow, may editor ka na ng letter mo.

Mararamdaman naman na nya siguro dito how you really feel about her. Just make sure to clear your head and your heart. Parang.. What's the real score? :)

Uhm anu pa bang pinagsasasabi ko, cge na send mo na..

Goodluck and Godbless Gill!
May the force of love be with you!

gravity said...

kausapin mo na lang sya! hehe. i think you're just not that into her (parang movie ito). correct me if i'm wrong...

pero you have a point. maganda pa rin na you remain friends. just go with the flow. after all, most relationships that last longer are those w/c started sa friendship. Ü

Lionheart : Richard the Adventurer said...

Much better kung personal mong sasabihin sa kanya thru phone or talagang harapan kayong magkausap... Hiindi kasi minsan magandang gamiting paraan ang letters especially sa mga ganyang situations...

my-so-called-Quest said...

send it! sennd it!
snail mail kaya? hehehe

balitaan mo kami (ako! hehe) ha kung anu reaction nya after nyang mabasa.

MkSurf8 said...

champion 'to. good luck bro.

gillboard said...

ewwik: thanks for the support... hehehe..

jen: yeah... i think i should.. sa weekend na... takot pa ako eh... hahaha

gillboard said...

Drake: salamat sa mga tips... at sa pag-edit ng letter... maganda yung point about being friend pa rin niya... aayusin ko yung letter bago ko isend... thanks again.

gillboard said...

dylan: onga no... napaisip tuloy ako kung ano isasagot ko pag tinanong ako kung ano nga ba yung score...

gravity: meron talagang not that into her... hehehe...

gillboard said...

ced: sige... pag nagkaroon ako ng lakas ng loob na ipadala ito sa kanya... hehehe... di pa ata ako handa... i need more female POVs

mksurf8: thanks...

Kosa said...

ayus na ayus...

[R]e[N]s said...

if i can suggest...
you may want to reconsider deleting the line from -Lets start there to not this way-
because it changes the tone of the letter from meek to an almost controlling dude...
just an opinion...
if it doesn't work...
then you can always go back to selecta brownie ala mode... or dine in sbarro...

ORACLE said...

Huwaaaaw!

Eh kung basahin mo na lang sa kanya?

Pero you've got to clear something siguro kung meron ba talaga or wala. If you're interested lang sa friendship or not. Ang problema kasi dito parang umasa siya diba? To continue saying na maybe there is would probably hit a sensitive nerve...

Ahhh.... i daan mo muna sa mga biruan... mga petty talks... test the waters muna parekoy... =)

jeszieBoy said...

hang lupet! mapapaniwala mu na nga siya nyan!haha. juks lang! :]

ang mabuti pa, ipadala mu na sa kanya! :]

Ron Centeno said...
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Ron Centeno said...

Pareng Gilbert, sa dinami dami ng advise mo sa sulat, by now perfect na siguro yan. So nandito ako to let you write more. You have been tagged pare!:-) Paki bisita nalang sa In My own Words for the tag.

The Scud said...

send mo na ang email. or magpadala ka ng flowers at yan ang note. or chocolates. or iabot mo ang letter na sulat-kamay personally.

good luck, gillboard!

poging (ilo)CANO said...

uhaw naman....

baka mas lalo siyang ma inlab sayo pre!......

PaJAY said...

aabangan ko muna ang susunod na kabanata ng sulat nato...mas magandang humirit dun...hahahaha


ayos to parekoy...pang chikboy!...lol..

peace dude...

gillboard said...

kosa: hehe... salamat

rens: kahit pa positive o negative yung sagot sa sulat... i'll always go back to ice cream and pasta... hehehe

oracle: iwan ko sa voicemail niya? hmmm... pwede rin... yung nga, pinag-iisipan ko pa rin kaya di ko pa pinapadala...

gillboard said...

jeszieboy: i will.. in time... gaya ng payo ng iba, pag-iisipan ko muna kung ano ba sya talaga sakin...

ron: sige... can't promise sa tag kasi di ko sya talaga gawain.. hehehe... pero salamat sa pag-alala

scud: naku, kung may flowers at chocolate, bka lalo lang maguluhan yun... parang panunuyo naman kasi yun ng magsyota... hehehe... pero salamat sa payo

gillboard said...

ilocano: sa tingin mo? parang nagdadalawang-isip tuloy ako... hehehe

pajay: pang chikboy ba? hehehe.. sige hihintayin ko yung hirit mo... hahaha

Mys Lyke Meeh said...

thoughful mo naman...well? I guess in dating it's some kinda of like that and like this...

well, na miss mo pala siya...would that be a good sign? Hmn! ----