Mga Sumasampalataya

Jun 8, 2011


When you haven't outed yourself, you get alot of questions. People specially your family have alot of expectations. Unfortunately some of them want those expectations met.

Sometimes it's frustrating (if this seems familiar, I already wrote this somewhere else and in Filipino).

Tita: Engel, when are you going to get married?
Engel: It might take awhile.
Tita: Aren't you afraid you might get left behind. You're not getting any younger.
Engel: I'm fine. I'm a guy. I'm not worried about having kids.
Engel: And besides, I'm happy where I am right now.
Tita: That's not a good idea. If you get kids when you're older, who do you think will take care of them? When you hit 60 do you think you could still take care of a teenager?
Tita: I'm just worried you won't be able to take care of your children.
Engel: How about you tita, when are you going to get married?
Tita: is offline

Another Tita: Technology's great, yeah.
Engel: Yeah.
Tita: You get to talk to family hundreds of miles away.
Tita: You see their pictures.
Engel: Yup.
Tita: I especially like facebook.
(me thinking to myself uh-oh)
Tita: You get updated with old friends
Tita: Classmates.
Tita: Family.
Engel: Yup. Yup.
Tita: You.
Tita: So I see on your profile you're in a relationship
Engel: ...
Tita: ...
Engel: ...
Tita: ...
Engel: ...
Tita: Aren't you going to tell me about your girlfriend?
Engel: is offline.

Maybe it'll be easier if I just out myself.


rah said...

Hahaha. Kakatuwa naman yung tita mo kung makashobiz, pero nung siya na yung tinanong biglang nagoffline :D

Mr. G said...

if they think they will understand you...why not?

the green breaker said...

It was fun reading this post. You really can't expect everyone to just get to know your wants in an instant..

Kane said...

I loveeee hahahahaha.... go! Out na!!!!


Alex Forrest said...

It is never easy coming out. It'll never be.

But once you do it masasabi mo yung palasak na kasabihan "para akong nabunutan ng tink sa dibdib".

Spiral Prince said...

Let your heart and your gut be your guide. :)

Xian Garvida said...

kakaaliw! :)

Mr. Brightside said...

Hindi siya madali..hahaha... do it one relative at a time :D

^travis said...

My theory is that the frequency of the questioning diminishes with age. Relatives either assume or realize that a: you're just pihikan and hence, will become matandang binata or b: you're gay and hence, will become matandang dalaga.

If you must, try outing yourself to your Mom, first. Mothers are generally more accepting.

New follower here. Hope you can visit me, too. ^Travesty: life is so grotesque.

goodboi said...

Well, could it be just their way of fishing for the truth? You're not getting any younger, Engel. You have to deal with it, maturely. I couldn't think of how but you need to find that out yourself.

On the other hand, wala lang magawa ang mga tita mo. So if I were in your shoes, I won't give a damn giving them an answer. LOL