You know how relationships are complicated? How sometimes you want to give up on it because your gf/bf is driving you nuts? How crazy your partner sometimes is because she/he isn't telling you what the problem is? Or because you don't know where you stand in the relationship?
Yeah, I'm going through all that. And I'm single. WTF, right?!
Long story.
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They say people normally don't follow the advise that they give to other people. I think the past few weeks (or months) I'm guilty of it.
If you've been following my blog since I don't know last year. You know there are days when I wrote about single blessedness, about why there's nothing wrong with being single, all that bullshit. I admit, there were days that I felt it was all full of shit. Crap. I didn't follow my own advise.
I guess, Domjullian was right calling me ampalaya, because I was bitter. Could be because of my current predicament. I complicate stuff when they shouldn't be.
I'm going to try changing that. I don't know where or how to start, but I will.
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Interestingly, last Tuesday, prior to going to work I passed by Glorietta and passed by quite a number of couples strolling around. Normally, such a sight would make me go bitter or depressed, depending on the shape of the moon, but Tuesday was different. I actually smiled at the sight of sweet couples holding hands while window shopping, couples sharing McDonald's sundae. The cheesy stuff.
I don't know why, but my thoughts when I saw them were nice.
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So a couple of the comments I got from my last post, and a few posts ago was an invite from my blog friend jayvie to go out on a date with his cousin.
I know I've been ranting about being dateless these days. Naawa siguro siya sakin, that's why he thought of hooking me up with his cousin. I'm not really sure how to answer the invite. I mean it would be great. Actually it would be awesome to go out again. I'd really like that. The thing is, I don't know them personally, and I wouldn't jump into things first without testing the waters. I mean, they only know me through what they read. And what I write isn't entirely who I am. So I don't want to disappoint any of them if I don't pass their standards or anything.
Anyway, the answer is yes, I'd accept the invite. But I would like to get to know jayvie and your cousin more first before we push through with the date.
I'm easy. But not that easy. Hahaha. I'm just kidding. I am easy.
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Let me share the chorus of the song I'm currently in to. Could be the reason why I'm feeling better these days. The song's been sitting on my mp3 player for months now, but it was only this week that I noticed the lyrics. If you listen to the whole song, it's a bit cliche, but for some reason, this song spoke to me.
I'm the man who holds my ground
I'm the man who sticks around
I'm the man to hold you tight
Cuz I'm the man in love...
And I'm the man to make it right
I'm the man to kiss goodnight
I'm the man who won't let you down
Cuz I'm the man in love...
with you.
-Elliott Yamin, "I'm The Man"
Someday... I'll be able to say these lines to someone.
28 comments:
konting unsolicited advise lang po:
start with a blank slate with every new relationship or prospect. don't carry around negativity you acquired from past experiences. leave the baggages of past relationships behind. start fresh. eh ano kung masaktan ka ulit. at least you know you tried di ba?
good luck.
btw ako when i achieved peace at being single and i even accepted the fact that i would remain single forever and asked God for guidance (not husband) and thank Him for my state of singleblessedness, ayan biglang sulpot ni Mr. Right. heto married na ako :)
masarap maging single nagagawa mo lahat ng gusto mo, walang komplikasyon, walang gulo blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah <-This is me trying to convince myself na masaya ako di ko kailangan ng gerpen. hahaha
heniwei congrats sa date!yikeee lol
Hi, alam mo Gill kung nakikita mo ko ngayon malamang babatukan mo ko kasi 'gang likod ng ulo ko ngisi ko! este ngiti pala..
Gill is having a date with a total stranger!?... Yihiiii.
Why not? Who knows? Maybe, maybe not but what the heck! Instead of ranting about being single and the benefits of being single.. naman.
Kasal na lahat ng kaibigan kong pwede kong ireto din (sana) sayo.. Ako na lang ang hindi pa. lolz.
It's been a while Gillboard..And still, the same old Gill since day one I met ur blog, pero namiss ko tong site mo.. Pakiss naman!
Single ngayong summer? Hindi mo ramdam ang init hehehe
aba. may-blind date si gilbert. ayos. haha.
i'm going through a love phase este infatuation phase right now. sarap i-blog but i decided to let this remain private muna. hehe.
enough of me. good luck sa date. sana sya na. sana sya na nga. :D
you accepted the invite! yey! hehe. i do believe that you're a good person, pero para hindi ka mapressure, gusto ng pinsan ko na sumama daw ako. hahaha. ang weird di ba. pero tama, it's better na makilala mo muna sya.
sige i'll send you an email shortly :)
go and enjoy dating... namimiss ko na makipagdate sa ibang tao...
Pero mas masaya ako ngayon na lagi kong ka date ang misis ko... and in the near future ka date ang mga anak ko...
=)
wishing the best for you gil... :)
Advice from me to you (which I may, or may not follow, of course.:-p): Try to get to know her first, but not too much, so you'll get a gist of what she is like. And then when "date night" comes, at least you'll have something to start on...but not feel like the blind date is too contrived. Also, for the first date, pick an activity first before y'all sit down to dinner. That way, you could see how "she takes up space". :-D
Nice!
And goodluck with the date [just in case] ;-)
I can relate... again. LOL. Relationships are complicated, but most of the time, it is actually us who makes it so. Kaya ngayon, I've made a decision. I've had enough of complicated relationships muna and focus on myself and my work. Nakaka-drain kasi ng energy 'yan.
Read comics again, man. It's less complicated that way.
But, seriously, I'd rather be single. Although -this is going to sound weird but- I wish I have kids now. I can't picture a wife in my life right now. But thinking about me playing Mario Kart with my kids and reading H.P. Lovecraft to them before they go to sleep brings a smile in me. It's weird right?
Im not yet ready to go on dating it might be an expected rebound flings... for now' i wish you happiness =) and enjoy the day!
langya ka!
yown oh! so will we be seeing the date pics? nyahaha... goodluck gillboard and you're the man. \m/
sama akong sampu dyan gill!
wag masyadong mabilis at wag masyadong mabagal.. yung swabe lang..
wag masyadong paimpress, at wag din naman masyadong garapal.. yung sakto lang...
wag magpakatrying hard pero wag naman na walang kaeffort effort... yung tipong di man kayo magkatuluyan e rerehistro pa rin sa kanya na, "ahh oo si gill, ok naman sana yun e kaso we're not meant to each other lang talaga"
goodluck!
relationship is like a fortress. ung mga nasa labas ay gustong pumasok.. at yung nasa loob ay gustong lumabas hahaha. anyways. dating hmmmm wala ako maipapayo hahaha. di ako familiar sa mga do's and dont's. Gawa ka ng list based sa experiences mo at para marefresh ka na rin. Good luck! sana mabait ang yung kadate at same kayo ng wavelength para easy lang ;P
nakanang putik!! wahaha. inlove k n nyan pare. dahil sa knta. minsan ganun nmn talaga madadala tayo sa melow ng songs ska s lyrics. cg careerrin m n ang pinsan ng friendmo. hehe. malay m siya na?
pki sabi friend mo baka may pinsan pa siyang isa? hehe
I can sort of relate with the bitter ones. Hahaha. Rolling my eyes with gusto whenever I see 2 couples lalo na yung mga super cheesy. Hahaha.
Pero medyo tanggap ko na din naman ang pagiging single.
Good luc sa blind date! Sounds fun. :D
sa takdang panahon. hahaha... ayos. i can go for a blind date.
are u the man in love???
o...
are u in love with the man?
good luck sa date...
sana wala kang expectations...
kahit siguradong meron... fake it!
good luck ulit... di dahil kailangan mo...
para naman mabawasan ang dumadaming single sa mundo...(no pressure)
sometimes nakakabwisit isipin that we are made to couple with another person---coupling is a human nature. a blessing and a curse.....and it goes with feelings of bliss and sometimes, a lot of headache.....
lalalala
*ahihihi*
just decide to be prepared and you'll be. =P
gill...we always think that everyone should be a couple because thats the one acceptable, pag single maraming issue. Keysa panget, hindi kaaya aya, loser, nerd, weirdo watever bullshit this society is feeding us up. Sometimes being single is not because nobody likes us but its a choice that most of us find more comfortable.
Dati sinasabi ko na gusto ko rin maging single but seeing others make me sad. But not now, its a matter of setting your mind that this world is free, so you have all the options in life whether you want to be single, coupled, or married to your hands for the rest of your life. Its a choice!
In the end, its our happiness that matters.
potah, ako ba tong nagcomment? waa!
kakaiba ang paligid ngayon ahhh.lols
lalo na yung kanta...
ang masasabi ko lang parekoy eh goodluck..easy lang
Siguro by June lilipas na rin yang yearnings na yan. Baka you'll be into business naman haha
single ka nga, pinagnanasaan ka naman ng mga may jowa na... PANALO parin d vah!
naku
sakit ng ulo talaga ang magkarelasyon
pero sulit din naman
kahit paano
hehe
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